Ann, an intelligent and obedient girl as well as good in academics, was going low in her scores day by day. She seemed to be normal always like other girls, no one was having any clue that there was something wrong with Ann. She just wanted to stay alone and find corners whenever her friends were around. She wanted to escape all this chaos. She tried many times to hurt herself, all she wanted was peace. She was the limelight of the school, her teachers were worried for her as she was a good performer. Ann was counseled so many times by her teacher, she tried to find out what was juggling inside her but all the efforts of the teacher were in vain, as Ann seldom answered anything and always promised her teacher that next time she will be more attentive and bring the same result.
Ann was the only child to her parents. Her experiences of being neglected as a child were with her every day. No one was there at home most of the time and even when they were at home they wouldn't even notice whether Ann was at school, at home, or at play. A maid ( Ms.Thomas) was there to fulfill her basic needs. Ann tried so many times to speak to her counseling teacher but she was afraid of revealing the truth of her emotional trauma.
The children who are at school or with their friends, they have their second life because they somehow pretend that everything is OK and they can even fool themselves thinking that everything is OK. So was the case of Ann.
Mr. and Mrs.Brown were busy in their professional and social life, like being at home they were completely out of it. Mr. and Mrs.Brown were classy, sophisticated couple, Owner of top most MNC.
They were so much status-centered that work was the only prominent thing in their life. Their business was so dignified that to compete they were having only one purpose in their life " WHAT NEXT"?
Ann was finding herself so disconnected, like her other friends she also wanted to enjoy with her family and go for family outings, and have some adventures. She hardly remembers, when was the last time when she had spent time with her family. They hardly jammed together for any movie night or a small tea party. As they were busy in their night club meetings, hanging out for drinks and dinners with friends and colleagues. They were prolonged users of drugs, which caused their dependence to release their stress. This lifestyle was very pleasing to Mr. and Mrs.Brown
Ann once interrupted in their daily schedule and asked Mrs. Brown- "Mom can I join you"?.
No said Mrs.Brown, just go and take rest as you have school in the morning.
Ann said - " A kind reminder Mom, tomorrow is my special day. I have been selected as a Best Performer of the year. My teacher wants to honor me in front of the whole school and my parents."
Sure, Darling! I will see you in the morning, says Mrs. Brown.
Ann was convinced and had a good sleep. She woke up early in the morning and got ready on time. She just knocked her Mom's bedroom to call her as they were getting late for the school. Mom are you ready? , asked two-three times but no reply. Once again she banged the door this time she tried hard Mom can we leave?
Ann please come in - answered Mrs. Brown. Ann, I won't be able to accompany you as I have a severe headache and I have to leave for a meeting along with your Dad, in two hours. Please take Ms.Thomas with you as she is also like our family member. If you want I will write a note to your teacher mentioning her my busy schedule and apologizing for the same.
Mom but you hardly attend my school meetings and functions. At least you could have come today. She just left the room with her faded face.
Ann often felt low, she was aware of her parent's drug use. Although they denied several times, yelled at her for the same by saying that this is none of her business. She felt all alone, completely helpless and hopeless, having everything around but no way out. She wanted them to listen to her what she was going through. It took her to loneliness and everything got bottled up inside her. She stopped playing with her friends always keeping herself locked, after school. The School authorities sent so many notices regarding Ann's performance and always mentioned that Ann was a bright student and needed attention for her future. Mr. and Mrs. Brown were so busy in their worldly pleasures that they hardly went through any of the notices. Days passed by, and then weeks and then months. She spent sleepless nights, hugging her doll in her room sobbing quietly. The time came when she hits her puberty, but she couldn't find her Mom's corner where she could get comfortable. Ms.Thomas was worried for Ann but she couldn't comprehend. Ann's attitude was changing. She seemed withdrawn and aggressive. Her food intake was also disturbed. Ms. Thomas informed Mrs. Brown about Ann's development behavior but she ignored and took it lightly. Mrs. Brown asked Ms.Thomas to take Ann to the doctor and get her some multivitamins.
Ann was so offended, finding no one around she hunted her Mom's drawer and found one pack of drug. She took it, unknowingly the overdose, which increased her heart rate, soon she got panic attack and was dropped on the floor. Ms.Thomas rushed towards the sound and saw Ann fainted on the floor. She called Mrs. Brown but as usual call was unanswered. She tried Mr. Brown, but he too didn't receive, was in a meeting. She somehow called the driver and took Ann to the hospital. Ann was admitted in ICU, Doctor tried calling Mr. and Mrs. Brown as it was an emergency and a police case. But before anything could be done, everything ended, Ann was no more.
Mr. and Mrs. Brown learned the lesson of negligence and ignorance. The couple was arrested who sacrificed their daughter in the hope of an endless reputation.
All such incidents point to a disturbing trend. So much awareness is created regarding child-abusing and parenting but, still, such incidents are happening.
* What type of parents are these?
* What's the guilt of that little girl?
*Do these parents don't have any feeling for their kids?
*Do kid is a burden for them?
All these questions keep wandering in my head.
Whenever I listen to those unheard weeping sounds of kids, I feel breathless, as if someone is choking me.
Why such type of parenting?
The effects of such parenting are long-lasting. It leads to mental personality disorder in the kids.
Child neglect is a form of child abuse and is a failure of parents in meeting a child's physical, medical, educational, and emotional needs. The victims bear the repercussions day in and day out. They also find it difficult to trust people and hardly share their innermost fears and joys. Some victims turn into rebels while others continue to suffer in silence.
Child abusing is far worse than taking someone's life as the survivors die every single day of their life. Same was the case of Ann, she was often neglected and which turned as the darkest side of her life in which she was killed daily...yes I will say killed, because such parents are the real tormentors. Mr. and Mrs.Brown were the real abusers and murderers of Ann.
The abuse is not always physical, emotional abuse also leaves lasting scars because children grow up in a state of fear and without clear boundaries, they need for healthy psychological and social development. Parenting classes and therapy can provide insights to such parents to fill the gap in their knowledge of parenting.
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Dear Reader,
This is a very sensitive and thought-provoking piece of the story. As a society, we need to spread awareness about child neglect or child abuse. The battle, which the victims' fight is beyond words but with love, encouragement, little more attention, and resilience they can conquer. If you feel that I have highlighted this article with a purpose, the need of the time and touched your cord, then please share your comments.
Sunday, June 28, 2020
Wednesday, June 17, 2020
AM I A WAX DOLL?
One fine evening there was a party at home in regards to Rahul's promotion. Everyone was invited family, friends, relatives including Rahul's Boss and his wife and other office colleagues. Rahul was so excited to celebrate his success in the corporate world.
Riya, whose life so far has revolved around Rahul and his family's needs, wants, and dreams didn't stand up and speak up for herself ever. Riya was supposed to arrive early at home as she was the host, although she had done all her arrangements and everything was set and on time for the party. But she got late due to her meeting in the office.
Riya soon after reaching..."Darling! just 10 minutes, I will get ready and join.
Rahul and Riya had good relations but every relation has some issues here and there. Riya's life could have taken a different course but she harbored the dream of being the best wife and opted for just a 9-5 job and gave up on her passion for music as she was a talented singer.
Rahul was a go-getter and his mind and heart were set on his goals always and he could do anything in his capacity to achieve it.
And the day has come in Rahul's life. Riya too was on cloud nine, but somehow she couldn't make out to come early.
Once she got ready and came down at the party-hall, all were surprised to see Riya, as she was looking so beautiful.
But Rahul sarcastically--- " Huh, you and your 10 minutes."
Riya was getting many appreciating comments for her beauty and for her wonderful arrangements but she was upset as Rahul was angry, still, she kept the smile on her face.
Rahul somehow managed to control his anger, as all were asking for Riya as she reached late in the party although he kept on saying that- all the arrangements have been done by Riya, so she might have stuck somewhere.
But this behavior was just to express everyone that everything was normal, deep inside he just wanted to hear from Riya --- Why she got late and embarrassed him in front of all? What all colleagues might be thinking that my wife is not happy in my success. She is so busy with her job that she could not make out to reach on time.
Coming back to himself, As the party got over--- Rahul yelled, " Riya, do you have any idea what I was going through when all were asking for you?"
How bad my boss and his wife might have felt, when you were so late as well you didn't mix up properly, you were busy with your family members and friends.
All those comments I will get to know tomorrow when I will reach office- Narcissistic, Egoistic, Akadu hai, Pati -Patni ki banti nahi shayad, and what all.
Rahul enough--- for the very first time Riya answered.
"Me Akadu, Egoistic, Me? Have you ever seen yourself standing in my place? Maybe you wanted a Robot as a wife, not a wife. A Robot that never gets tired, whose voice tinkles after running all day long. Even less, there is a smile on the face at any time of the day. The Robot who does household work, handles office, keeps the husband and family happy as well as ready to please his husband on bed and remains an ideal daughter-in-law among relatives and friends.
Have you thought even once how happy I was, after hearing your success story? Did I complain about anything that how I will manage everything alone for your party? You are also aware that what all efforts I took to make it a happening event. I was happy to do so as you too know I am creative in my work, I will do it in a better way. All were happy and appreciated well for my efforts.
Rahul--- so what! For this, I could have easily hired a party organizer who could have done it in a much better way.
After hearing this Riya's world comes crumbling down when her fiercely ambitious husband has no place for her emotions.
Riya took her bag and said I think we need a break. This is not my cup of tea. I cannot live anymore like a Robot. I also get exhausted and I have that right to express what I feel. Do not snatch away my right to be a human being. Do not consider me a WAX DOLL who is lifeless. The pain inside her burst out into tears.
Soon the communication started to fail and the night started to get real sour, real quick. As she shut down, more and more Rahul thought what in the world he was going to do without her presence. It was late, and the night was already at its end, but all he wanted to make Riya feel better somehow.
Riya on the other side after thinking about an uncalled incident, delve upon and question her life choices and their marriage. But at the same time she was happy inside that at least she stood up for herself. The only thing which was juggling inside her was, what should be my next step should I leave or should I give time to Rahul to realize his mistakes, but how long I will do the same, He is a man without heart it seems, every now and then he makes me feel that I am not good enough. Marriage is a mutual understanding and a life long commitment. It is more than a physical union. It requires falling in love many times, with the same person. It should bring happiness to your life. It is our memories of togetherness, forgiveness of mistakes, and a promise to never give up on each other. But am I the only one who has to give a thought always to maintain our relationship? I need my love, care, and respect as well. If our roots are deep, Rahul should stop me. Oh my dear lord! Please help me to make the right decision. I don't want to give up like this but at the same time I cannot carry on without keeping myself happy.
Rahul deep inside was feeling very low and realized that he never understood Riya's loneliness and pain and always molded her according to his and his family's needs. He never asked her about her choices, likes, and dislikes. He never realized before that his life could come to a standstill without her. He understood that Riya needs a best friend in him, with whom she can share her joys and sorrows. Marriage is not only a physical bond that pleases you and gives you satisfaction, It is much more than that.
Coming back to himself, Riya listen---Rahul in a gentle tone of his voice.
Riya please forgive me, burst it off as a one-off incident and please move on. Riya please don't give up and don't keep our relation on stake. I am sorry for disrespecting you. Riya forget about this night, and think that it never happened. Please give me a second chance. A while later, Rahul took Riya in his arms and promised himself that he would never disrespect her and will give her the right to follow her dreams and passion!!!
A marriage is a bond between two imperfect people. Every marriage has some of the other grounds for divorce. We are aware of the facts of divorce, increasing at an alarming rate.
Like Riya and Rahul, we all are facing some of the other issues in our married life but it is not the solution to give up.
We should always try to nurture our relationship in a beautiful way than before. A paper won't guarantee your relationship, that you will be together forever, it's love, respect, trust, and understanding. Mistakes happen its human nature, and it can be on either side. So, faith in your relationship to make it last forever. Respect the differences and accept and appreciate the similarities, is the base of a great relationship.
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Riya, whose life so far has revolved around Rahul and his family's needs, wants, and dreams didn't stand up and speak up for herself ever. Riya was supposed to arrive early at home as she was the host, although she had done all her arrangements and everything was set and on time for the party. But she got late due to her meeting in the office.
Riya soon after reaching..."Darling! just 10 minutes, I will get ready and join.
Rahul and Riya had good relations but every relation has some issues here and there. Riya's life could have taken a different course but she harbored the dream of being the best wife and opted for just a 9-5 job and gave up on her passion for music as she was a talented singer.
Rahul was a go-getter and his mind and heart were set on his goals always and he could do anything in his capacity to achieve it.
And the day has come in Rahul's life. Riya too was on cloud nine, but somehow she couldn't make out to come early.
Once she got ready and came down at the party-hall, all were surprised to see Riya, as she was looking so beautiful.
But Rahul sarcastically--- " Huh, you and your 10 minutes."
Riya was getting many appreciating comments for her beauty and for her wonderful arrangements but she was upset as Rahul was angry, still, she kept the smile on her face.
Rahul somehow managed to control his anger, as all were asking for Riya as she reached late in the party although he kept on saying that- all the arrangements have been done by Riya, so she might have stuck somewhere.
But this behavior was just to express everyone that everything was normal, deep inside he just wanted to hear from Riya --- Why she got late and embarrassed him in front of all? What all colleagues might be thinking that my wife is not happy in my success. She is so busy with her job that she could not make out to reach on time.
Coming back to himself, As the party got over--- Rahul yelled, " Riya, do you have any idea what I was going through when all were asking for you?"
How bad my boss and his wife might have felt, when you were so late as well you didn't mix up properly, you were busy with your family members and friends.
All those comments I will get to know tomorrow when I will reach office- Narcissistic, Egoistic, Akadu hai, Pati -Patni ki banti nahi shayad, and what all.
Rahul enough--- for the very first time Riya answered.
"Me Akadu, Egoistic, Me? Have you ever seen yourself standing in my place? Maybe you wanted a Robot as a wife, not a wife. A Robot that never gets tired, whose voice tinkles after running all day long. Even less, there is a smile on the face at any time of the day. The Robot who does household work, handles office, keeps the husband and family happy as well as ready to please his husband on bed and remains an ideal daughter-in-law among relatives and friends.
Have you thought even once how happy I was, after hearing your success story? Did I complain about anything that how I will manage everything alone for your party? You are also aware that what all efforts I took to make it a happening event. I was happy to do so as you too know I am creative in my work, I will do it in a better way. All were happy and appreciated well for my efforts.
Rahul--- so what! For this, I could have easily hired a party organizer who could have done it in a much better way.
After hearing this Riya's world comes crumbling down when her fiercely ambitious husband has no place for her emotions.
Riya took her bag and said I think we need a break. This is not my cup of tea. I cannot live anymore like a Robot. I also get exhausted and I have that right to express what I feel. Do not snatch away my right to be a human being. Do not consider me a WAX DOLL who is lifeless. The pain inside her burst out into tears.
Soon the communication started to fail and the night started to get real sour, real quick. As she shut down, more and more Rahul thought what in the world he was going to do without her presence. It was late, and the night was already at its end, but all he wanted to make Riya feel better somehow.
Riya on the other side after thinking about an uncalled incident, delve upon and question her life choices and their marriage. But at the same time she was happy inside that at least she stood up for herself. The only thing which was juggling inside her was, what should be my next step should I leave or should I give time to Rahul to realize his mistakes, but how long I will do the same, He is a man without heart it seems, every now and then he makes me feel that I am not good enough. Marriage is a mutual understanding and a life long commitment. It is more than a physical union. It requires falling in love many times, with the same person. It should bring happiness to your life. It is our memories of togetherness, forgiveness of mistakes, and a promise to never give up on each other. But am I the only one who has to give a thought always to maintain our relationship? I need my love, care, and respect as well. If our roots are deep, Rahul should stop me. Oh my dear lord! Please help me to make the right decision. I don't want to give up like this but at the same time I cannot carry on without keeping myself happy.
Rahul deep inside was feeling very low and realized that he never understood Riya's loneliness and pain and always molded her according to his and his family's needs. He never asked her about her choices, likes, and dislikes. He never realized before that his life could come to a standstill without her. He understood that Riya needs a best friend in him, with whom she can share her joys and sorrows. Marriage is not only a physical bond that pleases you and gives you satisfaction, It is much more than that.
Coming back to himself, Riya listen---Rahul in a gentle tone of his voice.
Riya please forgive me, burst it off as a one-off incident and please move on. Riya please don't give up and don't keep our relation on stake. I am sorry for disrespecting you. Riya forget about this night, and think that it never happened. Please give me a second chance. A while later, Rahul took Riya in his arms and promised himself that he would never disrespect her and will give her the right to follow her dreams and passion!!!
A marriage is a bond between two imperfect people. Every marriage has some of the other grounds for divorce. We are aware of the facts of divorce, increasing at an alarming rate.
Like Riya and Rahul, we all are facing some of the other issues in our married life but it is not the solution to give up.
We should always try to nurture our relationship in a beautiful way than before. A paper won't guarantee your relationship, that you will be together forever, it's love, respect, trust, and understanding. Mistakes happen its human nature, and it can be on either side. So, faith in your relationship to make it last forever. Respect the differences and accept and appreciate the similarities, is the base of a great relationship.
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Monday, June 15, 2020
THE PRINCESS AND THE FROG
One fine evening a young princess went out to walk by herself in a wood. She came across a pond, she sat down and took rest for a while. She always carries a sparkling golden ball, her favorite plaything. She was tossing the ball around, but right at the moment ball rolled down and plopped into the pond. The princess looked into the pond for her ball, but it sank into the deep waters. She could not see the bottom of it.
"Oh no! My beautiful ball ". She burst into tears desperately.
"What's the matter"? a croaky voice said.
Looking around, She caught sight of a little green frog sitting on a stone by the side of the pond.
The frog leaped towards the princess and asked again after he got closer- "What's wrong beautiful princess"?
The princess was stunned when she saw a talking frog. ' A talking frog how can that be'?
"Well here I am, My princess," said the frog.
Coming back to herself, "My beautiful golden ball", She sobbed. It's fallen in the water and I can't reach it because it's so deep. What can I do? How can I get it back?
' I can get it for you if you like', said the frog.
"But you have to do me a favor in return," said the frog.
'Anything', said princess. 'I will give you all my jewels if you want'.
"I want my three wishes to be fulfilled," said the frog.
My first wish is- "I want you to be my friend and allow me to live with you in a palace for a day."
My second wish is- " I want to eat from your plate, drink from your cup, and sleep in your room, please give me some corner space."
My third wish ...........
"Yes what is your third wish," asked the princess?
My third wish I will tell you once you fulfill my other two wishes.
'Of course', said princess. Now please hurry up! I promise to fulfill all your wishes.
The frog dived into the water and went out of sight. While later, the bubbles appeared in the water and up popped the frog balancing the ball on his nose.
Quickly Princess grabbed the ball and ran off towards the palace. Seeing the princess leaving the frog behind --- the frog yelled after her.
My beautiful princess, you promised to take me with you to the castle.
The princess replied after laughing mockingly," "How can you imagine living with a beautiful princess like me even for a day"?
The princess left the frog right there and went back to the castle. In the evening, the king, queen, and princess sat down at the dinner table. Right when they were about to start their dinner, they heard a knock on the door.
The maid told," A frog has arrived being invited by the princess and seeking permission to come in."
The king surprisingly asked his daughter- " Would you like to tell us what's going on my daughter"?
The princess told all about what happened on the pond in the morning. After listening, the king said-" If you gave your promise to the frog to save your ball, then you should keep your words."
The king ordered the maid to welcome the frog inside.
A while later the door opened and the little frog came in leaping and stopped next to the dinner table. He addressed and thanked the king heartily.
Soon after, with one big jump, he landed next to the princess plate. The king ordered a plate for the frog, but he stopped him. No need for a plate your highness, I will eat from the princess's plate as she promised. The princess was really upset with him but she thought that he would leave after the dinner anyway, so she didn't say anything.
But the frog had no intention to leave after the dinner. When the princess left the table, he followed her towards the room.
The time passed and the frog got sleepy. Being afraid to upset her father, the princess had to allow the frog to be in her room.
Trying not to show her anger, she also just slept quietly. In the morning frog woke up the princess and said, " Thank you for fulfilling my wishes". Hearing that princess was very happy and thought that he will leave right away. The princess was extremely happy and was assured that the frog has forgotten his desire for his third wish. Soon later she looked at him but she saw that the smile on the frog's face was disappeared and instead, a tear ran down his cheek.
The princess thought for a while, he was so happy, why he started shedding his tears?
Coming back to herself, she asked the frog," what was your third wish? Why you are so upset and crying?
"I cannot be so selfish my princess," said the frog.
But what happened, why are you sounding so mysterious?
You have to kiss me and listen to my whole story. ...said the frog.
It's fine ... said the princess. So what's the big deal!
By hearing the story you can decide princess whether you wanna kiss me or not? As I don't wanna spoil your life. You and your family were so kind to me.
Princess said whatever it is I would carry out!
The frog said.... I was a very handsome young prince of a land far away. The evil witch cast a spell on me and turned me into a frog. To break the spell I had to spend one night next to the princess and get a kiss from her.
So, If I kiss you, you will no more be a frog forever .....asked princess?
No, my dear, there is one more condition along with that, If whosoever princess is ready to kiss me, she can definitely turn me into a human being only if she is not united in wedlock forever. And even if she dissociates her promise she will lose her Prince's life.
Hearing this princess said -" I am ready to kiss you."
The frog denied and said -
'you are so young and beautiful. Don't screw up for me.'
The princess said- Being as princess I have one more duty, to serve my kingdom. If you are in need and I could help you out by my sacrifice, I would be happy to do so.
The frog just wanted to keep the princess happy, he quickly left the room. The princess ran after him and took him in her hand and kissed him. As soon as she kissed the frog, A bright light covered the room, and right at the moment, the frog was turned into a handsome young prince.
The princess was stunned and she could not believe her eyes.
Soon after, the prince put forward and said those three magical words and stole her heart away. He committed himself to remain unwedded.
Oh, my dear princess, our love be immortal and will last in memories forever and ever. You will always be my yearning! All my dreams would be embedded by your shadows. I will always feel hard for your silent, sweet gaze.
Oh my love, please forgive me, If I have been so mean. I promise you that you will be my princess in white and whenever you need my sight, I will be there right. You will be always there in my heart. You as princess serve your kingdom and I will serve mine.
The princess's eyes were filled with tears, she doesn't want to get apart but this was destiny, no one has control over it. At the same time, she was happy as she found her beloved prince although they cannot stay together but were close in their heart.
The princess told the whole story to the king. The king said, "You learned so many lessons today my child". May God bless you and your prince and give you the courage to face all your hardships. The prince and princess kept their promises and beautifully maintained their relationship thereafter and lived happily ever after.
As a writer, we have our own world of imaginations. We live in our own fantasy world with no limitations on our thoughts. It stretches our mind and helps us to create and reach on a different platform of wonderland, beyond the point. So is the world of a fairy tale, I believe what draws me most strongly to fairy tales is how much wiggle room there is for the imagination.
The romance attracted me always of prince and princess, no matter what conflicts came up, you could almost always be sure of a happy end for the heroes.
Here there is a twist in the tale, Although the princess found her prince but could not live together. They both just wanted to keep each other happy. This story tells about we should not judge others only by the looks, without knowing the whole truth. You never know how much someone might be struggling inside. So be kind.
Reach out to give as much as you can.
This story also tells us Immortal love or selfless love still exists, which is unconditional and does not want anything in return.
Lastly, A promise is a promise, you should always keep your words.
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But what happened, why are you sounding so mysterious?
You have to kiss me and listen to my whole story. ...said the frog.
It's fine ... said the princess. So what's the big deal!
By hearing the story you can decide princess whether you wanna kiss me or not? As I don't wanna spoil your life. You and your family were so kind to me.
Princess said whatever it is I would carry out!
The frog said.... I was a very handsome young prince of a land far away. The evil witch cast a spell on me and turned me into a frog. To break the spell I had to spend one night next to the princess and get a kiss from her.
So, If I kiss you, you will no more be a frog forever .....asked princess?
No, my dear, there is one more condition along with that, If whosoever princess is ready to kiss me, she can definitely turn me into a human being only if she is not united in wedlock forever. And even if she dissociates her promise she will lose her Prince's life.
Hearing this princess said -" I am ready to kiss you."
The frog denied and said -
'you are so young and beautiful. Don't screw up for me.'
The princess said- Being as princess I have one more duty, to serve my kingdom. If you are in need and I could help you out by my sacrifice, I would be happy to do so.
The frog just wanted to keep the princess happy, he quickly left the room. The princess ran after him and took him in her hand and kissed him. As soon as she kissed the frog, A bright light covered the room, and right at the moment, the frog was turned into a handsome young prince.
The princess was stunned and she could not believe her eyes.
Soon after, the prince put forward and said those three magical words and stole her heart away. He committed himself to remain unwedded.
Oh, my dear princess, our love be immortal and will last in memories forever and ever. You will always be my yearning! All my dreams would be embedded by your shadows. I will always feel hard for your silent, sweet gaze.
Oh my love, please forgive me, If I have been so mean. I promise you that you will be my princess in white and whenever you need my sight, I will be there right. You will be always there in my heart. You as princess serve your kingdom and I will serve mine.
The princess's eyes were filled with tears, she doesn't want to get apart but this was destiny, no one has control over it. At the same time, she was happy as she found her beloved prince although they cannot stay together but were close in their heart.
The princess told the whole story to the king. The king said, "You learned so many lessons today my child". May God bless you and your prince and give you the courage to face all your hardships. The prince and princess kept their promises and beautifully maintained their relationship thereafter and lived happily ever after.
As a writer, we have our own world of imaginations. We live in our own fantasy world with no limitations on our thoughts. It stretches our mind and helps us to create and reach on a different platform of wonderland, beyond the point. So is the world of a fairy tale, I believe what draws me most strongly to fairy tales is how much wiggle room there is for the imagination.
The romance attracted me always of prince and princess, no matter what conflicts came up, you could almost always be sure of a happy end for the heroes.
Here there is a twist in the tale, Although the princess found her prince but could not live together. They both just wanted to keep each other happy. This story tells about we should not judge others only by the looks, without knowing the whole truth. You never know how much someone might be struggling inside. So be kind.
Reach out to give as much as you can.
This story also tells us Immortal love or selfless love still exists, which is unconditional and does not want anything in return.
Lastly, A promise is a promise, you should always keep your words.
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Sunday, June 7, 2020
WHAT TYPE OF MOTHER ARE YOU?
Each mother has a different strategy to shape and nurture her child. Psychology has mentioned 5 types of mother, here I will express those five types through my personal experiences.
Perfectionist mother:
A perfectionist mother has no middle ground, either she has achieved perfection or utter failures. Mothers who strive for perfection, ironically do their children more harm than good. Mothers who cannot tolerate their imperfections cannot tolerate their children either. Perfectionist is not about holding high standards it's about a race where mothers are running to give their children a wonderful life and when they fail to attain it, are mercilessly hard on themselves. A perfectionist mother is a woman who is hypocritical and emotionally vacant. She is filled with anxiety and fear but can do anything to appear perfect. She leads a well-organized life and has a strong sense of right or wrong.
The Children of these kinds of mothers are hardworking as well as persistent but are often judged by others. The opinions of others have more importance in their lives than their own beliefs.
Scene-- A mother running to the grocery store for a gallon of milk -usually a five-minute trip, but her kid accompanying her throws a world-record tantrum as they reached the store.
Mother's response- After looking around, She says- "You have to behave like a proper child, don't embarrass me. All are staring at us, if u continue to whine and cry will drop you here only. I don't care what is your requirement, stop acting this way next time I won't bring u along anyway.
Appropriate response-" I know baby that you need your favorite snacks, but we already have lots of stuff at home, what all daddy bought for you is of your choice only, sooner we reach I can provide you. Now please be a good baby and stop crying."
If we are not ready to understand what the problem is, how we will solve it. In the above scene, the mother was not ready to buy anything for her kid as she does not want to spend an extra penny, it's not an issue it's our duty to make kids understand in another way around. We should know how to divert our kids more pleasingly.
Unpredictable mother:
An unpredictable mother is emotionally unstable. The parenting style of an unpredictable mother is purely based on moods and emotions. Her reactions depends on her current mental state.
The children of these kinds of mothers are often great motivators, provide great emotional support to others, and can be empathic. But they often find difficulty in understanding reality, as much of the problems which they got as a legacy from their mothers doesn't exist in reality.
Scene- A child's first day at school. After returning from school, he/she wanted to share the experience of the first day at school and was excited to tell all the stories and was expecting that Mom will listen and encourage.
Mother's response- After work, I had a terrible day my child. As well as a lot of household work is pending please let me finish. Oh! I forgot to give medicine to your sister, your daddy is waiting for snacks let me serve him. Wait, honey! I will listen to you later.
Appropriate response- I know honey today was your first day, I noticed that you are very happy and excited to share something. Please give me some time will listen to all your stories with a cup of coffee together.
Instead of addressing all your problems, you can make your child feel equally important this will not detach your child for the next time and he/she will always eagerly share each and everything with you. As they feel comfortable and assured that someone is there to listen to them.
Best friend mother:
This mom is an easy-going, gentle and very supportive. She is just like a friend to her child and there is no relational conflict. In this situation, the child is feeling motherless and they share all emotions and secrets with each other. Sometimes this may have the wrong impact on kids they may feel unloved or rejected. A mother should also know how to discipline her child along with being friendly. Despite all the kids can develop strong relations and assume leadership roles.
Scene- When someone bullied your child or he had a fight with someone in school, he gave a strong punch in return which somehow turned into a serious injury to the other child.
Mother's response- You tell me, son, what happened exactly? After hearing, You did the right thing, I would have done the same way. Always believe in Tit for Tat. Let school authorities call me I will deal with them. You don't bother.
Appropriate response- Tell me what happened in detail, my child. This is not the correct way to deal with your friend although he did wrong but we could have dealt it appropriately. We could have informed school authorities about bullying as well as parents about their child's behavior. The school is the one to take strict actions against such acts.
Although we are aware of the concerned behavior of a mother, she should know how to discipline as well as support her child in the correct manner so as the child is not repeating the same mischief in the future. Even though the mistake may be on the other side, but a child should know the difference between right and wrong.
Me-first mother:
Me-first mothers are self-centered mothers unable to view their children as separate individuals. This is usually the result of insecurities. They always want their children to learn since the beginning about making and keeping mother as the center of attention and recognition and always supposed to shine.
The children of these kinds of mothers are never confident and always doubt their capabilities and are not ready to make any decisions on their own. However, they would be more talented, supportive, and loyal.
Scene- You asked your child to keep his/her things at the right place. However, your child is not ready but he does and says Why I only have to do all this?
Mother's response- Who will do instead? It's your work to keep things back after use. I do so much for you and you can't even do this much work of yours. You should be grateful to me always.
Appropriate response- My child I know you are tired but even I need help and in that case, we can finish our work early and can spend time together. You should also learn to be responsible. Thank you for understanding, listening, and obeying.
Although we know our kids are dependent on us but we should make them responsible at the same time. You should not take all the credit of his/her hard efforts and try to appreciate even for the small achievements and treat them as an individual so that they can make their own choices correctly. You teach your kids with your efforts but you forget that they have also put their efforts, after seeing their rubrics or academic records, you are the one to symbolize that I made u achieve the good result you should be thankful. Instead don't focus on your efforts otherwise your child would never be independent.
Complete mother:
The complete mother is a perfect blend of all four styles. She is balanced and healthily expresses her emotions. She is warm, empathetic. She sacrifices so that her children feel loved and served. She is self-assured and goal-oriented. She helps her children to tackle a wide range of opportunities and balance her ambition as well. She treats her children as individual personalities and give space for their creativity. She is a researcher, thinker, and inventor. She is very loyal to her children and friendly too. She is very adventurous and loves to play with kids enthusiastically. She is a protector and encourages her children to take on big challenges. She provides a stable home and is the support of her family.
The children of these kinds of mothers are fully confident. They embrace life without fear, accept others, and engage in healthy relationships.
BEYOND THE POINT, It's the job of a mother to not only guide and protect her children, but also to be a foundation for them. All she needs to do experiments on her child to see what works best for him/her. Every child has a different behavior and knowledge. To be frank, two kids of the same mother/parents are not identical. All skills/tricks are fundamentally different of a mother to raise her both kids. Each child comes into the world with a blank slate. We as parents need to train them to act of kindness, humanity, and all life skills, all other skills they will learn themselves. We are here to guide them so that they can bring their best to the world. Although they are an extension of our being but this does not mean that we have the right to impose all our insecurities and imperfections on them and ask them to juggle on their part and make us shine. The real responsibility is to raise our kids as a good human being. We must be open to learn from our kids as well.
Have you really judged yourself what kind of mother are you?
We can easily tell our opinion about others, all the judgemental facts would be inline. But have you ever thought about yourself? If you are satisfied with your motherhood journey then this is a state of bliss. But if anywhere, you find you need a change then step up and surely one day you will be a mother you desire.
Scene- A child's first day at school. After returning from school, he/she wanted to share the experience of the first day at school and was excited to tell all the stories and was expecting that Mom will listen and encourage.
Mother's response- After work, I had a terrible day my child. As well as a lot of household work is pending please let me finish. Oh! I forgot to give medicine to your sister, your daddy is waiting for snacks let me serve him. Wait, honey! I will listen to you later.
Appropriate response- I know honey today was your first day, I noticed that you are very happy and excited to share something. Please give me some time will listen to all your stories with a cup of coffee together.
Instead of addressing all your problems, you can make your child feel equally important this will not detach your child for the next time and he/she will always eagerly share each and everything with you. As they feel comfortable and assured that someone is there to listen to them.
Best friend mother:
This mom is an easy-going, gentle and very supportive. She is just like a friend to her child and there is no relational conflict. In this situation, the child is feeling motherless and they share all emotions and secrets with each other. Sometimes this may have the wrong impact on kids they may feel unloved or rejected. A mother should also know how to discipline her child along with being friendly. Despite all the kids can develop strong relations and assume leadership roles.
Scene- When someone bullied your child or he had a fight with someone in school, he gave a strong punch in return which somehow turned into a serious injury to the other child.
Mother's response- You tell me, son, what happened exactly? After hearing, You did the right thing, I would have done the same way. Always believe in Tit for Tat. Let school authorities call me I will deal with them. You don't bother.
Appropriate response- Tell me what happened in detail, my child. This is not the correct way to deal with your friend although he did wrong but we could have dealt it appropriately. We could have informed school authorities about bullying as well as parents about their child's behavior. The school is the one to take strict actions against such acts.
Although we are aware of the concerned behavior of a mother, she should know how to discipline as well as support her child in the correct manner so as the child is not repeating the same mischief in the future. Even though the mistake may be on the other side, but a child should know the difference between right and wrong.
Me-first mother:
Me-first mothers are self-centered mothers unable to view their children as separate individuals. This is usually the result of insecurities. They always want their children to learn since the beginning about making and keeping mother as the center of attention and recognition and always supposed to shine.
The children of these kinds of mothers are never confident and always doubt their capabilities and are not ready to make any decisions on their own. However, they would be more talented, supportive, and loyal.
Scene- You asked your child to keep his/her things at the right place. However, your child is not ready but he does and says Why I only have to do all this?
Mother's response- Who will do instead? It's your work to keep things back after use. I do so much for you and you can't even do this much work of yours. You should be grateful to me always.
Appropriate response- My child I know you are tired but even I need help and in that case, we can finish our work early and can spend time together. You should also learn to be responsible. Thank you for understanding, listening, and obeying.
Although we know our kids are dependent on us but we should make them responsible at the same time. You should not take all the credit of his/her hard efforts and try to appreciate even for the small achievements and treat them as an individual so that they can make their own choices correctly. You teach your kids with your efforts but you forget that they have also put their efforts, after seeing their rubrics or academic records, you are the one to symbolize that I made u achieve the good result you should be thankful. Instead don't focus on your efforts otherwise your child would never be independent.
Complete mother:
The complete mother is a perfect blend of all four styles. She is balanced and healthily expresses her emotions. She is warm, empathetic. She sacrifices so that her children feel loved and served. She is self-assured and goal-oriented. She helps her children to tackle a wide range of opportunities and balance her ambition as well. She treats her children as individual personalities and give space for their creativity. She is a researcher, thinker, and inventor. She is very loyal to her children and friendly too. She is very adventurous and loves to play with kids enthusiastically. She is a protector and encourages her children to take on big challenges. She provides a stable home and is the support of her family.
The children of these kinds of mothers are fully confident. They embrace life without fear, accept others, and engage in healthy relationships.
BEYOND THE POINT, It's the job of a mother to not only guide and protect her children, but also to be a foundation for them. All she needs to do experiments on her child to see what works best for him/her. Every child has a different behavior and knowledge. To be frank, two kids of the same mother/parents are not identical. All skills/tricks are fundamentally different of a mother to raise her both kids. Each child comes into the world with a blank slate. We as parents need to train them to act of kindness, humanity, and all life skills, all other skills they will learn themselves. We are here to guide them so that they can bring their best to the world. Although they are an extension of our being but this does not mean that we have the right to impose all our insecurities and imperfections on them and ask them to juggle on their part and make us shine. The real responsibility is to raise our kids as a good human being. We must be open to learn from our kids as well.
Have you really judged yourself what kind of mother are you?
We can easily tell our opinion about others, all the judgemental facts would be inline. But have you ever thought about yourself? If you are satisfied with your motherhood journey then this is a state of bliss. But if anywhere, you find you need a change then step up and surely one day you will be a mother you desire.
Saturday, June 6, 2020
WHAT MONEY CAN'T BUY
We live at a time when everything can be bought and sold. Market and market values have come to govern our lives as never before. Today buying and selling no longer applies to materialistic goods alone but increasingly governs the whole of life. It's not a deliberate choice but we really need to ask ourselves, do we want to live this way?
Growing greed is converted into needs and has somehow detached us from morals. Admission of our child to a privileged university, pregnancy through surrogacy, Fast track passes for the shows, parks, airports, VIP car parking, Buying the insurance policy of an elderly to get the after death benefits, paying to get the right to hunt endangered animals, paying for child's good grades, getting tradable pollution permits, etc are the non-ending issues of our daily life which can be bought through money.
Money can buy us all these but not the real happiness. We all know money is important but there are certainly other things which money cannot buy.
We can buy a house but not a home.
We can buy a bed but not a good sleep.
We can buy books but not the knowledge or talent.
We can buy designer clothes but not inner beauty.
We can buy adulation but not respect.
We can buy the trappings of high society but not the character or integrity.
We can buy the thrills but not the inner peace.
We can buy acquaintances but not friends.
We can buy companionship but not love.
We can buy someone's service but not his/her loyalty.
We can buy medicines but not good health.
We can buy vacations to our favorite destinations but not a close-knit family.
We can buy expensive watches but not our time, every one minute we are closer to our dying. Our life starts to fade away the moment we are born. So why not to make our life more meaningful by our Good thoughts, Good deeds, and Good words, which is the base of humanity. We should use our talents wisely and well. We should have a cheerful and grateful attitude towards life. The greed ruins our characters, spoils our lives, and harms us.
Today's world is full of temptations so are we always discontented. In our increasingly materialistic world, where money is often equated with success and happiness, our children should learn to treasure the important values to become good human beings and to lead meaningful lives.
From the very beginning, they should be taught that what pocket means and how should they spend it. They should be taught that every passing year they will grow more than the last year, so they should feel the pleasure in reaching out to help others. If we don't have money to give to charity we can share our time and give love and happiness to others. I will make my idea clear by a story.
Ruhi's 18th Birthday. She was blessed to have everything- a big house, cars, maids, pets, all sorts of toys and gadgets. On her 18th birthday, her Dad wanted to gift her an expensive car that would belong to her only, as she was now 18 can have an official permit to drive. Her Dad told her to call all her friends and cousins and throw a big party. Ruhi was displeased to celebrate her birthday the way her father wanted. Although she was from a wealthy family but was always missing her parent's time, as they both were working and hardly spend time together.
Ruhi asked her father - Can we have a day together in an old age home? Ruhi's Dad was surprised to hear that. Ruhi said- Dad I want to spend time with the elderly people as I miss my grandparents who are unfortunately no more with us. I want to celebrate my birthday along with them. I don't want to waste all your hard-earned money on a party or an expensive car. Isn't this a much better way of using money than to buy costly things which we don't really need? If you really want to spend some amount please do buy something of their needs or give money to educate and feed poor children. I have everything, Dad. Ruhi's upbeat attitude made her Dad glad and delighted. He bussed her on her forehead and said - What a wise girl you are! I wanted to give you a present but you gave me a much bigger present today. Thank you, darling! You made me understand - What real happiness is! What money cannot buy!
Beyond the point, Live your best life but make sure in order to earn money you don't miss out on the precious things which money can't buy. Our lives can be rich even if we don't have a lot of money. We are well settled, we have our family and friends around. We should always build a good character with good values and help others as much as possible. We should be always grateful for what all we have!!
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Please do like, share and comment if u really enjoy reading all my articles. Keep on reading my upcoming articles. Please do share your personal views and experiences.
Growing greed is converted into needs and has somehow detached us from morals. Admission of our child to a privileged university, pregnancy through surrogacy, Fast track passes for the shows, parks, airports, VIP car parking, Buying the insurance policy of an elderly to get the after death benefits, paying to get the right to hunt endangered animals, paying for child's good grades, getting tradable pollution permits, etc are the non-ending issues of our daily life which can be bought through money.
Money can buy us all these but not the real happiness. We all know money is important but there are certainly other things which money cannot buy.
We can buy a house but not a home.
We can buy a bed but not a good sleep.
We can buy books but not the knowledge or talent.
We can buy designer clothes but not inner beauty.
We can buy adulation but not respect.
We can buy the trappings of high society but not the character or integrity.
We can buy the thrills but not the inner peace.
We can buy acquaintances but not friends.
We can buy companionship but not love.
We can buy someone's service but not his/her loyalty.
We can buy medicines but not good health.
We can buy vacations to our favorite destinations but not a close-knit family.
We can buy expensive watches but not our time, every one minute we are closer to our dying. Our life starts to fade away the moment we are born. So why not to make our life more meaningful by our Good thoughts, Good deeds, and Good words, which is the base of humanity. We should use our talents wisely and well. We should have a cheerful and grateful attitude towards life. The greed ruins our characters, spoils our lives, and harms us.
Today's world is full of temptations so are we always discontented. In our increasingly materialistic world, where money is often equated with success and happiness, our children should learn to treasure the important values to become good human beings and to lead meaningful lives.
From the very beginning, they should be taught that what pocket means and how should they spend it. They should be taught that every passing year they will grow more than the last year, so they should feel the pleasure in reaching out to help others. If we don't have money to give to charity we can share our time and give love and happiness to others. I will make my idea clear by a story.
Ruhi's 18th Birthday. She was blessed to have everything- a big house, cars, maids, pets, all sorts of toys and gadgets. On her 18th birthday, her Dad wanted to gift her an expensive car that would belong to her only, as she was now 18 can have an official permit to drive. Her Dad told her to call all her friends and cousins and throw a big party. Ruhi was displeased to celebrate her birthday the way her father wanted. Although she was from a wealthy family but was always missing her parent's time, as they both were working and hardly spend time together.
Ruhi asked her father - Can we have a day together in an old age home? Ruhi's Dad was surprised to hear that. Ruhi said- Dad I want to spend time with the elderly people as I miss my grandparents who are unfortunately no more with us. I want to celebrate my birthday along with them. I don't want to waste all your hard-earned money on a party or an expensive car. Isn't this a much better way of using money than to buy costly things which we don't really need? If you really want to spend some amount please do buy something of their needs or give money to educate and feed poor children. I have everything, Dad. Ruhi's upbeat attitude made her Dad glad and delighted. He bussed her on her forehead and said - What a wise girl you are! I wanted to give you a present but you gave me a much bigger present today. Thank you, darling! You made me understand - What real happiness is! What money cannot buy!
Beyond the point, Live your best life but make sure in order to earn money you don't miss out on the precious things which money can't buy. Our lives can be rich even if we don't have a lot of money. We are well settled, we have our family and friends around. We should always build a good character with good values and help others as much as possible. We should be always grateful for what all we have!!
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Please do like, share and comment if u really enjoy reading all my articles. Keep on reading my upcoming articles. Please do share your personal views and experiences.
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