TRIBUTE TO UNSUNG CORONA WARRIORS

Everyone is in fear,
As this the darkest time of the year.
We all are in this stage today,
No one knew it would be this way.
Broken pieces come to an end,
We as humans cannot mend.

Our fighters are blessed with hope;
And blessed with faith,
A blessing from above;
That no one can take.

The woods are dark and deep;
But they have promises to keep;
And miles to go, before they sleep ;
And miles to go, before they sleep.

They have a dream;
And laboring hard within a team.
They're ready to do what is right;
So we can sleep better at night.

Let's support and defend our unsung warriors;
Who are good and true,
As they are fighting for me and you.

Let's respect them for their courage;
To keep us safe in our cage.
They do everything with their whole heart;
And ask us very little to do our part.

Let's unite again and show the world once more;
That to rule the world with peace and harmony is our one and only goal.

God is there, and our prayers will turn without any doubt;
The more we follow the rules, the sooner we will be out.

Beyond the point, Let's be brave, and keep ourselves safe;
As everything in the world is temporary and so is this phase!!

THE PATH OF FORGIVENESS

Life becomes more meaningful when you realize the simple fact that you will never get the same moment twice. No matter how badly someone treats you, never drop down to their level. Remain calm, stay strong, and walk away. Sometimes the hurt is very deep, such as when a spouse or a parent betrays our trust, or when we are victims of crime. Anyone who is suffering from pain, it's difficult for him/her to concentrate on anything as his/her inner world is badly disrupted and due to this all our relationships suffer.  💔

Mistakes happen by situation not by intention. Always try to know the reason behind every mistake of your loved ones. That's the way to value a relation. So forgive often and love with all your heart. Take no one for granted as you never know what may happen tomorrow. Everyone has too many flaws to be perfect. Choosing forgiveness doesn't mean that wounds will suddenly vanish, or what all happened was OK. Forgiveness gives peace to your mind and it heals your heart. 

Forgiveness does not come easily, but it is possible to achieve. If we use the right tool and willing to put effort. Forgiveness increases our inner strength and safety and its worth the effort. Just let go of past hurts and choose to love more than to hate or hurt more.
I read somewhere before-------
Someone asked::
           "What is forgiveness?"
A little boy gave a lovely reply --- It is the wonderful Fruit that a Tree gives when it is being hurt by a stone.

Every new day is another chance to change your life. So never blur your vision by making your journey painful. Always take control of the thoughts and memories that now have control over you. The secret of being free is not revenge but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. It's not the first chapter but the last chapter of our life which shows how well we ran the race.

BEYOND THE POINT, Love covers over a multitude of sins. Forgiveness is the final form of love. It is the attribute of the strong. You cannot change the past but for sure you can change the future. You can always lead your journey of forgiveness by the practice of recognizing that every person is unique, special, and irreplaceable. Sometimes pride and power can weaken your efforts to forgive, but always try to develop a forgiving mind through Empathy. Above all, love each other deeply; Keep on counting and collecting all your blessings. Support one another throughout life. 

ART OF PERSONAL EXCELLENCE

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. Improvement is the basis of evolution. When someone is looking for self-improvement it means to believe that nothing under the Sun is perfect. There is always room for improvement. We all wish to change our lives for betterment. We always do find the chance to improve and change it. And again once we get a chance we are puzzled how to start and how to make a change. The most successful people are always looking for ways to improve. They are not satisfied with accepting their shortcomings or resting on their laurels. Top achievers put time and energy into being their best self.

I would say from my personal experience, no matter who you are, how old you are, or your circumstances right now. Self-development allows you to be happier day by day and live life in the 
way you want to.


SELF DEVELOPMENT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE---

• Growth in yourself eventually leads you to new opportunities. All you need to focus on your lifestyle. Start implementing the things which you learn in your life. Focus on self-improvement----by reading good articles, blogs, books on personal development.
• Do not use your energy to worry, use your energy to believe. Self-confidence leads to Self - esteem. All you need to believe in yourself and follow your dreams. Always keep motivating yourself which will in turn push you to reach your goals.
• Self-improvement helps you become a better version of yourself. Whether to improve in your job, your business, your relationships. You have to constantly look at what you can improve; you have to grow into the person who is ready to change. Personal development is vital to your success.

THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO IMPROVE YOURSELF------

• Always have a reliable company around you to judge and guide you towards your improvement path.
• Reading is the best choice when it comes to growth and improvement.
• Identify your blind spots.
• Overcome your fears.
• Acknowledge your flaws.
• Always challenge yourself and have healthy competition.
• Learn from people who inspire you.
• Learn to deal with difficult people whom you can't avoid.
• Always try to avoid negative people.
• Cultivate a new habit and quit a bad habit.
• Let go of the past and focus on the future.
• Get a mentor or coach if you find it difficult to lead your journey of improvement.
• Take a break.
• Always meditate and exercise.

Life never seems to be the way we want it,

but we live it the best way we can.

There is no perfect life,

but we can always fill it with perfect moments.

BEYOND THE POINT, Let us be a Player in life who runs for the goal.....and not a Referee who looks for the faults. Always recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow. Shake your routine up and do something different. Being too comfortable doesn't help us grow, it makes us stagnate.

MOTHERHOOD AS MENTALHOOD

Parenting can feel like a lonely journey sometimes , even when you know so many others have been in the same shoes before. Motherhood synonym are Parenthood or Mothership. Motherhood is a state of being a mother or experience of having or raising a child. It's the ultimate roller coaster of joy and sorrow, comfort and fear, love and hate, fast and slow, past and future.

Merely focusing on giving birth to a child from your own body doesn't reflect a symbolism of Motherhood. Anyone can give you a bed to sleep or provide you a meal....agree? Just having people under your care is not only what makes a mother!!

Instead true meaning of Motherhood is................... A Mother is someone who cares and nurtures children with deepest love to raise them as a decent humanbeing. A Mother is a coach, trainer, cheerleader as well as fan of her children all the time.  A Mother has to deal and face lot of problems while bringing up her children. From balancing between love and disciplining, or it is related to their Nutrition, Bullying, Gender roles, Trust, Bad and Good touch, Art of saying No to her children etc.... The real life Mothers have their own parenting journeys from difficult challenges to the joyful moments that make modern day Motherhood as Mentalhood.

A Mother can be a Stay at home mom who aims to break the idea that moms who don't have a nine to five job have it easy. As well as Mother can be a Working mom who is expected to balance between her personal and professional life without skipping a beat. A Mother can be a Adoptive mother, Biological mother, Putative mother, Step mother or a Single mother. A Mother may vary based on social, cultural and religious roles. 

But, BEYOND THE POINT ......A mother always want her children to go and change the world. Her journey is confused between should or would.  She might not be having all the answers but has to pursue by following all the questions. She has to manage her responsibility everyday without fail.

H.O.P.E ( HOLD ON , PAIN ENDS)

NEVER LOSE HOPE;
ALWAYS HAVE FAITH, AS IT ALLOWS US TO COPE.
TRYING TIMES WILL PASS AS THEY ALWAYS DO;
JUST HAVE PATIENCE ,OUR DREAMS WILL COME TRUE.

IT'S TIME TO TURN ALL CAN'TS INTO CANS;
AND DREAMS INTO PLANS.
FOR THAT WE ALL HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE PAIN;TO BREAK THE CHAIN.

BE A RESPONSIBLE CITIZEN, LISTEN TO THE DON'TS;
AS IN THE END, WE ONLY REGRET FOR THE CHANCES WE WON'TS.

GOD HAS PERFECT TIMING;
NEVER EARLY, NEVER LATE.
IT TAKES A LITTLE PATIENCE AND A LOT OF FAITH;
BUT ITS WORTH TO WAIT.

BEYOND THE POINT............
BE STRONG ! BECAUSE THINGS WILL GET BETTER;
IT MAY BE STORMY NOW BUT WILL NOT RAIN FOREVER.

WE WILL WIN THIS SITUATION NOT IMMEDIATELY;

BUT  VERY SOON ........... DEFINITELY. 


NEVER LOSE HOPE...........NEVER LOSE HOPE!!!!!!

ME TIME VS FAMILY TIME

Sometimes, you just need to disconnect and enjoy your own company. It's always better to have nobody, than to have someone who is half-there, or doesn't want to be there. '' ME TIME ''!! is nothing but take time out for yourself.

          Your smile is your logo........

          Your personality is your business card.............

          How you leave others feeling after an experience with you becomes your trademark.

Hats off to us Moms who are on the job 24*7   365 days!!  

We do everything for our kids and family. Since morning 6 a.m to midnight or beyond, we are constantly working ---

child care, hubby care, home care, cooking, working professional, studies of the kids etc..    We are playing multiple roles - Mum, wife, friend, nurse, helper, cleaner, chef, teacher, working professional, and many more. As Moms, we should ditch that guilt that comes when we try to spend time for  "OURSELVES ".

Why  " ME TIME " for MUM is important for the entire family?

Apart from a parent or a partner we have another role as an individual. And if we don't take care of our health and well being first, it will be extremely difficult to take care of anyone else - no matter how much they need you.

Happy  Mom means Happy Family!!!  Me time offers her to relax and enjoy some moments of her own.

A Healthier Mom can remain stress-free if she concerns areas of her own health.

A Sharper Mom with renewed Zeal solves all your issues, if she gets time to sleep or do her favorite things.

All work and no play can make Mom dull. An Updated Mom has to learn new skills and keep herself updated with the latest information.

A Smarter, Prettier Mom deal with all chores confidently. If you look good, you do feel good!!

Tips to Steal '' ME TIME"---- 

* Go for walk or workouts.

* Pursue your hobbies-reading, listening music etc

* Go for shopping alone.

* Spend time with friends.

* Enroll for some courses.

* Make pamper me appointments-spa, salons etc

I agree that for strong bonding we all need to spend 

' QUALITY FAMILY TIME ' as well as ' WE TIME'(SPOUSE TIME) along with the 'ME-TIME'. We should not forget one thing Dads also need ME TIME. They also need time to relax and spend some time on themselves.

BEYOND THE POINT  I would say 

" Make the most of yourself, for that is all there for you".

So often as humans, we believe we need to push ourselves beyond what we can handle. When we give ourselves so much, we start to lose our individuality. Saying NO to someone just to have ME TIME  means we are strong enough to be alone without fear of judgment or worthlessness. It's always motivational to know that we are worth it and can love being alone. 

LOVE LOCKER

 Love is addictive and humans can't get enough! The hormones your brain releases when you experience love lead to positive feelings , leaving  you wanting more. We tend to think love occurs solely between romantic partners , but this is not true. Humans can experience different types of love in various relationships, such as with romantic partners, friends, family and even strangers on the street. We need to figure out what actually love is ?

Degrees of Love:

Self love - It's a healthy form of love where u recognize your self-worth and don't ignore your personal needs. Your soul allows you to reflect on your necessary needs and physical,emotional and mental health as well. True happiness could only be achieved when one had unconditional love for themselves.

Affectionate love - Love without romantic attraction and occurs between  parents, siblings , family or friends. It occurs when both people share the same values and respect each other. Our mind articulates which friends are on same wavelength and whom we can trust. This type of love is linked with loyalty, compassionate and trust.

Romantic/Long-lasting Love - It's an everlasting love between a couple that chooses to put equal effort into their relationship. Instead of falling in love you are standing in love with the partner you want by your side indefinitely. This kind of love continues to develop throughout the years and portrays synchronization and balance.

Familiar Love - This love flows between parents and children as well as childhood friends or best friends. This kind of love is built upon acceptance, unconditional approval, sacrifice and deep emotional connection.

Primal Love /Love of the body - It comes as a natural instinct for most people. It's a passionate love displayed through physical affection or desire towards each other and a lack of control. This kind of relations  tend to be short lived.

Playful Love - Keep your love exciting with humor and flirting.
This kind of love is commonly used in beginning stage of any relationship.

Obsessive Love -This is a love towards partner. It leads in unwanted jealousy or possessiveness known as codependency. Most cases of obsessive love are found in couples with an imbalance of love towards each other.

Selfless Love - It is the highest level of love to offer .
It's given without any expectations of receiving anything in return. It's an empathetic attitude of love for everyone and anyone. This type of love can be for humans, for nature or for a higher power.

We all need love in so many different ways from so many different people in our lives. It's absolutely necessary to have a happy life . We often neglect our so many relations but we should focus on cultivating love in our lives. BEYOND THE POINT  all I want to say -This is Love Locker more Truer than True love. Without commitment any kind of love cease to exist.

PARENTING BEYOND PINK VS BLUE // BARBIE VS TRUCKS

There are ''pink rules'' for girls and ''blue rules'' for boys. This encompasses everything from clothes and toys to the way the child is treated. But do this gender norms reflect some inherent biological differences between the sexes or are they culturally constructed? I think this is absolutely fascinating question?

Why can't a girl go to school like her brother?
Why can't a boy cook a meal like his mother?
Why can't a girl choose a truck for a toy?
And isn't a skipping rope fit for a boy?
Can't sons and daughters be treated same?
why such injustice and who is to blame?
Girls are traditionally seen as emotional nurtures where as boys as bread winners. 

But we would like to have ''white rules'' with plenty of choices. Gender differences actually affect the growth of our own kids in the real world. Gender discrimination should be removed. Both boys and girls should be given equal chances to grow into good human beings. So far history has told only ''HIS STORY''. Hopefully, sometime soon it can start telling ''HER STORY''. Although time has changed  women are slowly gaining respect and equality in today's society.

But BEYOND THE POINT , I believe children should be raised on the basis of their interests rather than their gender. Parents should recognize and foster their child's unique strengths, even in a cultural obsessed environment.